Get Ready For Season 2: Born This Way

If you have not seen the hit A&E show Born This Way, then my friends, you are missing out.  But don’t worry because you can catch up and see all of the first season episodes here before season two premiers next Tuesday, July 26.

Born This Way is a captivating docuseries that shares the lives on seven young adults that have Down syndrome, and trust me it brings out all the feels– especially as a mom to a young daughter with Down syndrome. Each cast member is building independence and finding their own niche as they navigate adulthood, with the support of their parents.

Sean, a sports enthusiast and self-proclaimed ladies man, yearns to live on his own and find a girlfriend and/or wife.

Megan is a blossoming entrepreneur with a growing clothing line called Megology.  She and her mother live in Colorado, but Megan dreams of moving to Los Angeles without her mother.

Steven works inside a stadium for a major league baseball team. He has a less common form of Down syndrome known as mosaic Down syndrome.  Steven also longs for a girlfriend, but would maybe prefer to date someone who does not have a disability.

John is quite a character.  He dreams of debuting his first rap album with his single “Shake Your Booty, Booty” and trying for his drivers permit.

Elena lives in a group home setting, but still sees her parents regularly.  She sometimes struggles with her identity as a person with Down syndrome and relies on her friends to gain perspective.

Rachel is bubbly and sweet and quite possibly Adam Lambert’s biggest fan. She works at an insurance firm, and like the others, hopes to one day be in a loving relationship.

Cristina has been with her fiance Angel for five years.  He surprised her with a proposal in the first season and the two hope to live together independently soon enough.

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The group spends a considerable amount of time together at a Los Angeles based community center called Leaps ‘n Boundz.  The cast is like any group of young adults.  For example, Sean and Steven enjoy getting together for beers, Cristina is engaged to be married and they all enjoy hanging out with one another.  Each has their own set of goals and is on a fierce quest to reach them. Of course no group of friends would be complete without a dose of drama. One thing I have noticed is that the cast is quick to address any issues they may have with one another; something I find rather refreshing in a society where hostility is on the rise.

This is the same society that can often have stereotypical views and preconceived notions of those with Down syndrome.   Each cast member seeks to prove that their differences do not make them less of a contributor to our modern world.  In the word’s of Megan: “Don’t limit me…”

In pursuit of their own dreams, the show covers real life scenarios that each cast member faces like living independently, fostering relationships and generating income to support their passions.  Their parents also have a big role in the show.  They share their thoughts, stories from raising their children, the goals they have for their children and any fears or concerns they have as they send their kids into the real world while reluctantly loosening their grip.

I was able to get a sneak peak at the first two episodes of season two, and I must say that it looks even better than the first season.  The cast picks up right where they left off after season one. The first episode kicks off with a bit of drama at a red carpet ball, Sean makes a trip to Vegas, and Megan begins this season in Colorado running her very busy business alongside her mom. Check out the trailer for the upcoming season below, premiering this Tuesday, July 26 on A&E and share your thoughts in the comments section of my blog!

Don’t forget to tune in or set your DVRs to A&E on Tuesday, July 26 to catch the all new season of Born This Way at 10|9 c.

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Blank Spaces and Birth Stories

Baby books.  I stink at them.  Some people love them and some people even don’t have them.  I fall somewhere in the middle.  I love the nostalgia of them and I do have them; but I have failed to document each tooth that came in and on what date, and I did not always write down milestones as they happened.  I have the family information wrote down, the first pictures (most just loosely placed inside), footprints (at least one of the girl’s), what a package of diapers currently cost, and what they came home from the hospital in and first haircut locks that may or may not be in the incorrect child’s book. I went to work on the girls’ baby books the other day, and realized that I have recorded most of the girls’ milestones on this blog because it is the only place I can keep things organized without little hands scrambling it all up.

I think baby books are important for our kids too–a piece of their own history they can look back on and an awesome way to know themselves better.  But there is one space at the beginning of Tessa’s baby book that remains blank, and every time I open her book I see it. There are three lines given for me to share her birth story. Three whole lines.  Ever since I started filling in her baby book, I have intentionally left that spot wordless to avoid feeling a bit of pain; always telling myself that some day I would fill it in–just not that day.

To be honest, I am not entirely sure how to write it for her.  And sometimes when I see it sit empty, I have to catch my breath because I so badly want to fill the space. Tessa’s birth was a mix of typical and non-typical experiences, but I can’t possibly sum it all up in three little lines.  I know because I tried.  Maybe that is all most people need–just a few short lines to describe the splendor of welcoming a child into the world.  But what about those of us who need more space.  What about the births that did not go as planned?  The surprises, the heartaches, the fears and the unexpected; where love and loss simmer silently together in the melting pot of birth stories. Because there are many of us out there who need a whole page, not just a few lines so that we can share with our children how they entered this world.  Or remind ourselves of the time when we became parents.

Tessa’s birth was the most defining moment in my life.  I went to the hospital in the middle of the night to deliver my first child.  My daughter was on her way, and I was blissfully unprepared for traumatic delivery and the diagnosis that would all happen within that twelve hours; forever changing me from that point forward.  And looking back, I prefer it that way.  I would not change a thing.

I know there are more of me out there; who had a birth that did not go quite as we planned.  Those who struggle to write out their stories when they can’t rewrite history; to relive those moments and to feel it all over again.  Sometimes it doesn’t feel fair and that is because sometimes it just isn’t.  It stays with you forever.  You will encounter people who will not fully understand how you choose to get through it, and that is okay.  It is your experience and it deserves to explanation to anyone.  We grow from our own experiences and navigate multiple levels of joy and grief in many different ways.  But as for me, I am one of the lucky ones.  After two non-typical birth experiences–one quite serious–I brought both of my girls home.

Now please understand that I am not on some quest, shaking my fists and calling out baby book printers across the globe to increase the lines given for birth stories.  Seriously.  I just want other parents to know that each birth story is beautiful and meaningful; and reliving each of mine is an awesome trip down memory lane.  So I relive them by writing them out and reading them; remembering the moments in my life where time literally stood still.

If you want to write out your story but you were only allowed a few lines in that baby book, then I have two words you can start with:   See attached.  

That is how I am starting Tessa’s.

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